How to Begin Crafting a Life by Design (not Default)

If you spend the next 365 days doing what you normally do, eventually you’re going to create a year of life. Even if you decide to spend that time under the blankets and say “I’m not going to create anything at all!”, what you really are doing is spending a year of your life under your blankets. My point is, that you don’t get to not create a life. As you are living and breathing in this beautiful vessel of yours, you are creating your life moment by moment, and choice by choice. 

Many people go about their lives, doing what they normally do - “rolling with the punches”, “going with the flow”, “taking it as it comes”. This is what I love to call, living life by default.

Their lives are directed by the patterns of thinking they have established, up until now, without much conscious effort into creating anything new. In fact most people spend more time planning a weekend vacation than do planning a life they actually love living. 

But not you. You’re here because you want to create a life by design. You want to be a conscious co-creator in your life and live into each day with a “Heck YES!” attitude and love every moment of your days on earth.

So how do you begin to do this?

Just like an architect needs a blueprint to design your perfect house, you need a blueprint to design your perfect life. Saying to an architect that you’d love a “happy house” doesn’t give them much to work with. The same thing goes for your dreams.

So here are some professional tips to get your started!

The first is to notice your longing and discontent. What would you LOVE to create in your life? What would you love more of or less of? Where are you feeling constricted, hemmed in or unsatisfied? The more familiar you are with what you aren’t loving in your life, the better idea you have of what you would love to create! 

The second is to be specific. What exactly would you love to create? If it’s designing a business, how many people would you love to work with you? Are you working from home or do you travel? How much revenue would you love to bring in? Energy flows where your attention goes; the more detail you have, the more likely you are to hit your targets!

The Third is to keep it positive! Saying things like, “get out of debt” or “have no more back pain”  are considered “avoidance goals”, and aren’t as powerful as “approach goals”. Therefore, I invite you to shift your mindset and create a vision with words such as “live in financial abundance” or “move with more comfort and ease”.

Finally, keep your vision in the present tense. You can start your statements with “I am so happy and grateful now that …” Your mind is so objective that it doesn’t understand whether you are currently living the life of your dreams, or still waiting for it. By consciously affirming that this is your life right now, you are taking that dream of yours from being outside of your awareness, to being right where you are.

Have so much fun designing the life of your dreams! If you’d love even more guidance and support on getting from where you are now to where you’d love to be, please reach out and book a complementary Strategy Session with me. I am always so happy to support and guide more of you beautiful dreamers in creating a life you love living!